To survive or to thrive… that is the question. As long as you are concentrating on survival, you will be unable to truly thrive. And a Femme Fatale THRIVES.
This is the third in a series of four articles about moving from survive thinking to thrive thinking. Getting out of survival mode and into thrival (I just made up a word!) mode.
Need → Require → Want → Desire
Survive →→→→→→→→→Thrive
Today’s topic: Want
Wants are a bit tricky. Why? Because we think that the things we want are the endgame. “When I am x, then I’ll be happy.” “When I have y, then I can do the g
To survive or to thrive… that is the question. As long as you are concentrating on survival, you will be unable to truly thrive. And a Femme Fatale THRIVES.
This is the third in a series of four articles about moving from survive thinking to thrive thinking. Getting out of survival mode and into thrival (I just made up a word!) mode.
Need → Require → Want → Desire
Survive →→→→→→→→→Thrive
Today’s topic: Want
Wants are a bit tricky. Why? Because we think that the things we want are the endgame.
“When I lost 20 pounds, then I’ll be sexy.”
“When I have $1 million, then I can do the good things.”
“Once I retire, then my ‘real’ life can begin.”
And so on and so forth. We tend to make living our best life dependent on having, doing, or being certain things. And then we feel greedy for wanting those things. Or discouraged because we want better stuff and don’t know how to get it. Maybe even empty when we lack that thing we want to have.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting. It is wonderful to have goals and ambitions. But make sure that what you want is what YOU want and not what you think you’re supposed to want. Don’t set your goals based on societal expectations and definitions. Other people do not get to define your success and happiness.
Quit apologizing for wanting better. No more explanations. If someone is rude enough to question your wants, all you have to say is “I want it because I want it.” No need to justify yourself to all and sundry. It’s really none of their business or concern. Heck, most of the time there is really no reason for even telling people what you’re trying to accomplish. And it’s much more fun and a whole lot faster to show off your results than it is to convince someone of the validity of you wanting something.
But what if the thing you want isn’t really what you’re after? Generally speaking, a person wants something because they think it will make them feel a certain way. And what they are really trying to get is not the thing, it’s the feeling. A desired state. Which leads us to the final installment in the survive to thrive series – desire.
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