We are worth because we are. Said another way, God don’t make no junk. You are worthy because you are here. That’s it. That’s all you need to know about having and wanting things. Now, you do have to provide value in order to receive. However, you don’t have to do crazy things that other people think is “worth something” in order to be worthy. Thinking that is someone’s ego (yours?) talking.
So, where in your life are you being driven by your ego instead of your innate worthiness? How can you shift your perspective to knowing that you are worthy and don’t have to prove something to someone else? (The ego thing is where you’ve already decided for other humans how they think and feel about what you do without consulting them, and it’s driven by a fear of rejection.)
For example, do you wear makeup because you enjoy it and it makes you feel good or because it’s something you think you’re supposed to do? (I wear very little of the stuff, myself, because it’s not something I enjoy spending a lot of time on every day.) Do you dress a certain way because you think it’s expected? (This is not the same thing as following a dress code, if that applies to you.) Do you not wear certain things that you love because you’ve already decided how people will react?
Do you hide your true thoughts because you think that people will misunderstand you? (I’m guilty of this.) (This doesn’t mean that you should just spill every little thing that goes through your mind… it’s more of a not speaking up when you really want to express yourself and have something to contribute to the conversation and instead going along with whatever everyone else is saying in order to not draw attention.)
Are you holding back your true feelings and full affection in relationships in order to protect yourself? Are you afraid of being seen as too needy or clingy if you show someone the full force of your love? (I’m also guilty of this. It’s a whole “what if I’m too much for him?” thing.)
Once you have your ego-based stuff written down, go through each one and come up with how you would act if you were innately worthy, and your thoughts and actions were a reflection of your worthiness. If you’re stuck, try this first: I am willing to see things differently. Help me to see things as a worthy person.
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